Whenever the subject of porn comes up with people, they always have a lot of questions.  I get it.  The final product is usually so slick and polished that the process to get to that point has to be questioned.  What is it like on set?  How long does it take to shoot a movie?  Do you get to pick your co-stars?  Who has been your favorite person to work with?

I really like that last question, because there are a handful of guys that I can name that really were my favorites to work with.  What makes someone a favorite?  Well, for me, there has to be chemistry.  A guy can be hot as hell, but when the action starts, the fire isn’t always there.  No one’s fault.  Just a faulty connection.  The face is really important too!  Anyone can do steroids and lift weights, but for someone to have a face I’m attracted to is really the tipping point!

An attractive boyish face, dark features, a thick solid body, a kind person and someone who I get on with like a house on fire in bed… HELLO that’s the one for me, and his name is Filippo Romano!

The reason I’m bringing him up now is Filippo has made a transformation in his life.  He’s expanded to be more than sex on film.  Now he’s a DJ and he’s coming to Toronto for Labour Day Weekend to spin.  DJ Phil Romano!  His posters are up all over the village, and I walk by them everyday.  And everyday I’m reminded of one of my favorite movies and one of my favorite co-stars!  (truth is: I get a bone every time I see him)

The movie:  When In Rome!  CHECK IT OUT HERE!

It’s something you see other people doing all the time.  It’s something movies are made about.  It’s something society has expectations for everyone to do, except it’s not legal for everyone in every country.  It’s something people put a lot of time and effort into.  It’s something that brings families together.  It’s something that can cost a lot of money.  It’s something people do for love, or connections, or money, or power or all of the above.  And it’s something I NEVER thought I’d do!

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Over the years I’ve received all kinds of emails from people around the world.  Anything from someone wanting a “travel” companion to young guys in rural towns asking for advice on how to come out of the closet.

A constant is the solicitation to have sex.  Why not?  Hell, it’s what I’ve made my name on.  Can you really blame someone watching porn who gets all worked up and who then shoots an email off to his favourite porn star detailing what lewd things they should do together.  In my opinion, that means the porn star has done his job!  He’s gotten the viewer so into it that they are now contacting him with the hopes of an encounter.

Emails asking me out or asking me for sex are always flattering, and I appreciate each and every one of them!

My favourites now though, are the ones that, even after I’ve told them I have a boyfriend, they do not miss a beat “Bring him along!”  they say.  Sight unseen!  The more the merrier!  I share these emails with my boyfriend who then says “They’ve never even seen me!  I guess if it’s good enough for Eddie Stone!”  It’s all part and parcel of dating a porn star I guess.  Menage a trois anyone?

So, I’m in Montreal with Shaun, he’s just completed the PWA Friends For Life Bike Rally, and I’m off to have brunch with my mom. I thought a daytime meal out on a patio in the sunshine would help lend some levity to the situation. Of course, I met her at her’s and we walked down to a little brunch spot around the corner.

We chatted and laughed and when we got about half way through the meal (I didn’t want to save it for the end because if things went poorly I didn’t want to end on that note) when I said,

Me: “So have you been on the PROUD website lately?” (knowing full well that a link to the OUTLOOKS article that outs me as a porn star appears on my show page.

Mom: “Yesterday.”

Of course that doesn’t mean she saw or even read the article, she could just have been listening to the station online.

Me: “Have you seen the article on me and Shaun in OUTLOOKS?”

Mom: “No. What’s that?”

Shit. I thought if at least she had read the large print in the article she would already know and this would just be a formality.

Me: “Oh, well, it’s this great article in a nationwide magazine talking about me and Shaun and the radio and our pasts…”

I take a gulp of coffee

Me: “…and what makes us interesting as a couple.”

Mom: “That’s nice I’d love to read it!”

Me: “Ya. It’s a great article.” I had hit a dead end so I tried another tactic. “Oh, and I pitched a reality show idea to OUTtv and they loved it. We start filming this fall!”

Mom: “What? You never told me about a reality show! What’s it about?”

Here we are ladies and gentlemen, this is it, there was no going back now!

Me: “Well, it’s a reality show where contestants compete to become the next big porn star… and I’m the host.”

I paused here, hoping somehow the pieces would come together by themselves. They didn’t… It’s easier in my family when the pieces DO come together by themselves because we just don’t talk about things like this. We just don’t.

Mom: “Because of the radio, you’re going to host?”

I took a deep breath and said

Me: “No, because when I was in L.A. I became a pretty well known name as an adult performer.”

Image by: Keith Haring

There was a moment when I wasn’t sure she had heard, or understood. It was only a second or two, but it felt like forever. Her face did not change, but there was something in her eye that said ‘So, that’s what was going on in L.A., so many questions answered.’

I wasn’t ready for what she asked next, although it’s all I ever needed to hear.

Mom: “When do you start filming?”

“When mom comes to visit you next week, what are you going to tell her you do?” asked my brother on the other end of the line from Montreal. I skirted the subject by making a joke, but wondered how much my brother had figured out on his own.

I was just back from Italy. We had shot “When In Rome”, and my pockets were flush with cash.

Mom’s visit to L.A. went off without a hitch. “How’s the bar?” she’d ask. I told her I was bar backing and go go dancing at a couple of bars in West Hollywood. What? Don’t give me that look, it’s not so far off the truth! That’s how I got discovered by Chi Chi LaRue, while go go dancing at Micky’s!

With Chi Chi LaRue & Johnny Hazzard

Anyway, she left L.A. happy in the knowledge that I was doing alright for myself, if not totally aware of how I was achieving it.

And doing well for myself I did. I continued on as a Rascal Exclusive for Chi Chi, traveling Europe and the United States, picking up awards and nominations all over the place, modeling for Tom Ford, T.V. interviews, books, magazines and even my own dildo!

Promoting 'Stone Fox'

Now what? I had a decision to make. Years had gone by, and I had achieved more than what most porn stars ever do. I needed to continue to grow, and the only way to do that was by moving home to Canada.

I wasn’t abandoning the industry, but I needed a shift in my life. I had done a radio interview as Eddie Stone with Shaun Proulx of The Shaun Proulx Show on 103.9 PROUD FM in Toronto. PROUD FM is the world’s first and only queer commercial radio station. People have always told me I had a voice for radio, so I decided to move to Toronto and look up PROUD FM to see what could come of it.

I thought that the move away from L.A. and the pursuit of other avenues, like radio, would end the eternal questioning of “Are you going to tell your mom?”

I would never have guessed that a move home would force me to face and answer that question once and for all!