Over the past couple of days drama surrounding the issues of barebacking and HIV disclosure have been raging on Twitter and in the porn blogs.  Should someone be condemned for barebacking?  Does anyone have the right to ‘out’ someone as HIV+?

The crimialization of HIV has been a widely discussed and passionate topic in Canada for over 5 years.  In both the gay and straight communities, HIV+ people are being charged with crimes. CLICK FOR MORE

As guilt ridden self professed “victims” lay the blame on soemone else instead of taking responsibility for their actions.  And the issues become more complex when you add the element of sex made very public in the form of porn stars.

So let’s stop and think hard about it in the specific instance raging on the porn gossip blogs:

If a stranger’s profile on Adam4Adam says is is HIV-, and you spread your bare ass for that person and catch something… who’s really to blame?

Do not blame or demonize others for “spreading disease”.  The decisions YOU make with YOUR body are YOURS!

Take responsibility for YOUR OWN sexual helath, and your sexcapades will always have a happy ending!

The other day I noticed an ad for Aussiebum.  I love their bathing suits.  I’ve owned a few, my favorite was a blue and white drawstring speedo that clung ever so snugly to my package (especially when wet).

The Aussiebum ad reminded me of an “audition” I went to in L.A. and my run-in with the bitch diva herself, Janice Dickinson.  Now I’m not one to talk crap about others, so I find it hilarious that the one time I DO, my blog gets quoted on MSNBC.com.

Here is a blast for the past and that very quotable blog entry:

February 27, 2007 – Tuesday

The Janice Dickinson Modeling Agency

Before you watch the clip below, it’s necessary for me to clear something up first!
I in NO WAY was at the audition to be a part of the Janice (I’ve had more bad plastic surgery than Joan Rivers and have less class than Britney Spears) Dickinson Modeling Agency. She is a foul foul woman who’s crass sense of humour isn’t clever, witty or in any way becoming of a woman in her 50’s??

I went to that audition thinking I was at an open call for the new AUSSIEBUM campaign. For those of you who are not aware of what Aussiebum is, it’s a sexy trendy line of underwear from Australia with a kickass website and hotter than hell advertising campaign.

Janice must have known that the turn out for her ‘reality show’ would be feeble at best if she didn’t associate herself with something larger and more attractive; like Aussiebum.

I went thinking I would give the Aussiebum campaign a shot. But by the time I found out the truth (that the two auditions were connected and there was NO getting around it) I had already waited over an hour and a half, and decided to stay the course.

Looking back I should have gone with my gut reaction, which was to LEAVE!

It may sound like I’m bitter for not having been chosen, but that’s not it. I’ve chosen my industry, and I love what I do. I just thought being part of those sexy Aussiebum ads would be fun. I wasn’t looking to be part of some tacky modeling reality show.

The reason I resent her so much, is the way she treated those guys that really did care what she thought, and who really did want to be chosen. The last guy with curly hair and tattoos, whom she rips apart for being ‘fat’ had talked to me in line. He was funny and, well… you know I like’m kinda thick… so I had my eye on him!

If the clip doesn’t make you vomit, if her voice doesn’t make you cringe, there’s always Perez Hilton in there to push you over the edge!

P.S. Look for me at the 1:18 mark!

Well, well, well, Mr. Mel Gibson, I am so happy that you ONCE AGAIN are showing the world your true colors. Can I just mention quickly that I TOTALLY CALLED IT 4 YEARS AGO!!!

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, YouTube it. You’ll find several conversations (if I can call them that) of him on the phone freakin’ out!

On my blog on Myspace (which I have to admit was really entertaining to revisit even though I don’t blog there anymore you should check it out) I had posted the following. Enjoy!

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October 5, 2006 – Thursday

Too Little, Too Late!!!
sor-ry: 1) feeling distress, esp. through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune 2) feeling regret or penitence 3) used as an expression of apology

When used properly, saying the words “I’m Sorry” can be comforting and healing. However, when it is painfully obvious that the apology lacks any sincerity at all and is being done to save face… you become like any one of these three men!

Mel Gibson is a celebrity. He was lucky enough to be supported by an adoring public who handed him fame & fortune, only to then turn around and insult the very public who gave him the PRIVILEGE of celebrity by getting lost in his own THANKLESS EGO and RACIST ATTITUDE.

I’m speaking of course, of the fateful night Mr.Gibson was pulled over for drunk driving and decided to take the opportunity to show us all his true colors.

Mel Gibson’s PR people, realizing the gravity of the incident, decided a public apology for his behavior would smooth things over. Unfortunately for Mr. Gibson, as far as I’m concerned, his behavior that night caused him irrepearable damage and… apology NOT accepted!!!

In my humble opinion, being a celebrity doesn’t mean you’re above the law. It doesn’t mean you get to do and say whatever the hell you want. Au contraire mon frere! Being in the public eye and the focus of the media SHOULD mean that you have to be extra careful in the things you say and do, because, like it or not, you are a role model… and we’re all watching!
We made him a star, we should be able to TAKE THAT AWAY too!

I had an encounter recently with an older gentleman in the locker room at the gym. He stood changing in front of my locker, slowly, almost painfully, removing his socks. Noticing that I was waiting for the locker behind him, he apologized for being in my way, saying in broken English:

Gent: “I’m sorry, but it’s the age. Your legs don’t work so good at 85. The circulation is bad you know.”
Me: “Please, take your time! I hope I’m still coming to the gym at 85!”

Turns out the man was Jewish. This frail man, who stood struggling with his mismatched socks, bore the scars of the Holocaust, which, according to Mr. Gibson, NEVER HAPPENED!!

Gent: “This one here was from an electrified fence” He said showing me a big scar running along his neck.

He told me of the friends he lost, the heroism of men and the methods of torture used in the concentration camps. And when he was done, he smiled and looked me square in the eyes saying:

Gent: “If I can live that, I can do anything!” and motioned to the gym we were in.

Go ahead, try telling this man that his memories are wrong and his scars aren’t real… I dare you!
In the spirit of that story, I’d like to send out a big FUCK YOU to Mel Gibson!

When Pope Benedict XVI speaks, the world listens. In September, the pope gave a lecture at the University of Regensburg, Germany, in which he quotes a 1391 dialogue stating:

“Show me just what Muhammad brought that was new and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached.”

He went on, slamming Islam, and accusing the religion of not being God’s way or having any part of the Human soul. Is it any wonder that Muslim leaders condemned the Pope for his comments, and the Egyptian-based Muslim Brotherhood called on Islamic countries to threaten to break off relations with the Vatican unless the pope withdrew his remarks?

The Vatican issued a statement to say the pope had never meant to offend Islam. TOO LITTLE, TOO LATE!

Ben, I ask you, what was your goal here? If it was to widen the already great divide between the Islamic world and the West… then mission accomplished!

Whether we like it or not, to the rest of the world, Pope Benedict represents Western opinions and ideals (although, I’ve been hard pressed to find anyone who likes the guy or thinks we need a pope at all!) What attitude towards us should we expect from the Middle East when our supposed spiritual leader is blasting their faith?

And it seems as if Ben is on a role! What with insulting Islam, being instrumental in limiting women’s rights and stopping the gay movement dead in it’s tracks… I think I speak on behalf of those groups, and many more, when I say, TAKE YOUR ANTIQUATED MORALS BACK TO THE MIDDLE AGES WHERE THEY BELONG!!

American President George W. Bush, of the three men on my list (and probably on the planet today) has done the most damage of all. The sad part is, we’ll never get an apology… not even an insincere one.

Sports are in my blood.  Growing up I was a competitive swimmer.  Up at 5 am, swim practice and cross training before school.  Then back to the pool after school and weight training to boot.  I know about discipline, I know about competition and I know about the spirit of athletics.

So, it came as no surprise to me (ok, it came as a little bit of a surprise since I’ve never followed soccer/football before) when I got all caught up in the World Cup.

I love the idea of whole countries going head to head.  I love the enthusiasm of the crowds cheering.  I love the passion on the players faces.  But most of all I love spotting those gay moments.

One of my favorites has to be all the ass slapping, hugging and kissing!

These are guys so caught up in the moment, it’s pure love and comradery.  A real bromance.

Then of course there is what I like to call the Crotch Grab Kick.  The guys line up (I assume they aren’t wearing cups) and protect themselves from the potential impact of a flying ball.  Hot!

All of my perversions aside, I love sport!  I love how it brings countries together in friendly competition.  So much more civilized than war!

This past weekend was BEAUTIFUL.  Everything was perfection.  Time with my family, gorgeous weather and the right amount of outings!

After a relaxing day on Ward’s Island (just a ferry’s ride away from downtown Toronto), Shaun and I were heading home when we saw a very familiar figure.

Now, I don’t know how long this ‘Gold Man’ has been doing his shtick, but I think I can safely say that EVERY time I go to the Harbourfront… there he is!

But as we walked past him this time I noticed the locales and tourists stopping and staring.  They leaned into one another whispering about the ‘Gold Man’.  Some snapped photos and of course some threw money into his collection bin and it occurred to me… HE is ME when I used to go go in West Hollywood.

The similarities don’t end.  He’s on a riser.  He’s in a costume of sorts.  There is a crowd of gawking people.  Some keep their distance, some take photos and of course some tip him for his efforts.

Now, if I had only thought to paint my naked body gold when I danced!

I remember as a little gay boy, grabbing the nearest hairbrush dancing around and singing with my babysitter to Whitney Houston’s ‘I Wanna Dance With Somebody’.  It was a huge hit with myself and the world!

Whitney struck gold again with the soundtrack from ‘The Bodyguard’.

And then, because all good things come in 3’s, her ‘It’s Not Right, But It’s O.K.’ era pulsated on every dance floor coast to coast making that E high a little bit better!

Then came Bobby Brown.  And the drug abuse.  The fall, if you will, of a diva.

But everyone loves a comeback, and this is her’s!  I’m not giving Whitney carte blanche here, I want a GOOD album of music to dance to, and so far… ehhhh… not so much for me.

But as a former drug abuser, I have to commend her strength to kick the shit and get back on that stage.  For that, and for that reason only I will never be as hard on her as the media is being.  Criticizing her voice, saying she isn’t what she once was.  NO SHIT!  You try being cracked out for the better part of a decade and then we’ll throw you on a stage and see how well you do.

In whatever shape or form, the old girl is back.